…From someone who’s “Been there, done that”.
Nevermind the hypocrisy of the former statement- advice can only be truly given by learning from one’s own mistakes and failures. And I will admit, I have many.
Never ever be too hard on yourself. The troubles you perceive in your life are rarely as bad in the eyes of others as they appear in your minds eye. It takes strength to simply talk about a problem before it becomes a real problem; to ask for help when you need it, before you simply cannot do it alone anymore. Talk, and ask, when you realize that you need to, and do not let your own mind and pride get in your way. Be strong enough to know when to be weak.
Admit your own shortcomings and failures. It’s the only way to work towards overcoming them and thus, becoming a better ‘you’ in the process. Never blame others, if there was even but one small thing you could have done to change a situation for the better. Own up to your mistakes, and learn from them.
Never second guess yourself. Your instincts are usually right the first time.
It’s better to regret what you’ve done, than to regret what could have been- what you did not do. The latter will eat you apart over time.
Always chose love. Not fear.
Follow your dreams, but stay grounded. A lesson well watched and taught by Our Father’s beloved little ravens. Do what you need to do to survive, but never deny your desires, dreams and truest aspirations. One day they may indeed become a solid ground on which you can stand- but only if you persevere.
And lastly, for now, be kind to yourself. Don’t hate yourself for what you aren’t, but love yourself for who you are on the inside. In this twisted world many of us feel we’re not what or who we should be- don’t let that thought hold you back. Be who you need to be for you, and love yourself.